We have always been a very open family. I feel like if you are open and honest with your children from the beginning, then there won't be as many questions, and more importantly, as much curiousity later on. For instance, the kids take baths with us. It has been about 6 months or so since Lily has taken a bath with Adam, but they both take baths with me pretty regularly. If they are not in the tub with me, then they are standing at the side of it "helping" me take my bath. When they look at me, they don't see a "naked woman", they see mommy. It doesn't really matter if I have clothes on or not. Well, let me rephrase. Avery sees Mommy with her 2 food sources, and Lily sees Mommy with Avery's 2 food sources. (Please no negative comments about me still nursing him...I have researched and read enough material on breastfeeding to know what is best for me and my child!) Lily has never said anything about the fact that her and Avery's privates are different. She has never asked questions about the differences in my body and hers...except that she knows when she has a baby her boobs will get milk in them so that she can feed her babies. She hasn't said anything or asked any questions, that is, until today!!! She asked me this morning why I had hair and she didn't. Talk about blindsiding me. So, like always, I answered as honestly as I could. Well, tonight during their bathes (they still bathe together) she "noticed" Avery's privates. She, of course, asked why there was a difference. I guess that I knew this day was coming. She couldn't remain my innocent, naive, little girl forever. Though, I really wish she could! I feel like now, I need to sit down and tell her more about how things work. That God doesn't just put a baby in a Mommy's belly when the Mommy and Daddy want one and pray really hard for it (as we have told her up till now). But, to be honest, I don't know if I am ready for that. I feel like by having this talk, I would be losing my baby. Does that sound stupid??? How do I tell her that the world isn't all fairy's and princesses?? I want her to live in her princess world forever. I don't EVER want to expose her to the darkness of this world. It makes me tremble to think about the things that could happen to my children. How do I tell her about child molestation??? How do I tell her that not EVERYONE wants to be her friend??? How do I tell her that some people only want to hurt others??? I just don't know how to do this, and I don't know if I'm ready. Hopefully, if I pray about this for the next few days, I will come up with a way to approach this that will work for me and Lily!!! Pray for me, PLEASE!!!!
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Yeah, good luck with that! You are a good mother, it will come to you. Just take your time, pray hard & listen to the spirit. Have a good day! Love ya!
Well, I haven't really had the full talk with Melina but I am going to work on it this summer with the help of some good books. She knows girls have different parts than boys and that you get hair in certian places when you are grown up etc.... Not the "real talk". I know what you mean about not wanting to loose your baby. I really want the girls to hold on to the innocence of childhood as long as possible but then on the flip side I also don't want them asking (or getting) info from other sources. KWIM?? Hard balance. I probobly don't get as many questions since we only have girls here.
BTW... I think its great you are breastfeeding. I wish I would have been able to do it for a lot longer. No such luck.
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